When our own kids each reached the age of 9, we started an annual tradition with them at Christmastime. We'd take them out for bagels, and then have them fill out their Goals Sheet. These goals were never influenced by their parents. We found it to be a useful exercise to help them start making decisions about their life, and learning to prioritise what is really important to them.
After answering the questions, they would read them aloud sharing them with each other. I made a copy of their goals for one of them to keep on their dresser and the other copy I kept. The following year, we would re-visit the goals from the previous year. To my astonishment (and somewhat to their own astonishment), often 80% or more of their goals had been achieved.